Messages to Sexual and Gender Minorities and their family - Partners

If you believe that people click and become partners because they love each other, one’s gender identity won’t determine whom he/she loves. Besides, he/she might not even have any idea about his/her own identity when you two started the relationship.

Take care of yourself before explaining it to your child. You may feel upset, distressed, being cheated or being abandoned. You may also ask a social worker for counselling service, as it is very important to be listened and to take comfort. Besides, you may obtain more information about transgender through the Internet and books, and discuss ways of explanation to your child with a social worker.

Everyone is busy with his/her own life. You won’t become the focus of others. Take care of yourself. Let yourself digest this piece of news gradually before taking the next step.

Transgenders can be good parents too. Their child can also grow up as if those of the cisgender people. However, if they are forced to live with a gender identity they can’t accept, they may suffer from emotional and mental distress which may bring harm to the child’s growth.

Your love to your partner won’t be all gone in a sudden after discovering another side of him/her. It’s typical to have struggles and feel hesitated. You’d better not make a decision in haste. Try to discuss with your partner, friends you trust or other professionals before you make up your mind.